‘Let Us Ask the Heart’
The
fact that mr. V and I were married 7 years ago, today, is a minor
miracle. On our first date, he showed up
wearing sandals with velcro. VELCRO. Not good. I was
prepared to walk in the other direction but his self-deprecating wit won me
over enough to accept a second date and so on.
There
was the time that I was 5 hours late for a date. Why this rigidly prompt man waited for me, I
will never know. And then there was the
time that I dumped him. Like an idiot. And then I
dated someone else for a LONG time. And
that prompt mr. V still waited for me, for
a year and a half, to come out from under the ether of that other
ill-fated relationship, of which he predicted the demise from the outset.
The
irony is that he played me like a fiddle.
He figured out that I normally pursued edgy, hard-to-get guys but that
at the heart of it, I wanted someone to love and pursue me for me. So he shared stories of his misanthropic 20s
as a drummer with a purple mohawk in a punk rock band while also sending me emails full
of Shakespeare’s sonnets. He did not
tell me about his amazing parents, who met in the peace corps in Africa. He did not tell me that he was handy at
EVERYTHING because he grew up on a farm and had a pretty normal childhood. He did not tell me that he wanted to get
married and have 2.2 kids and a house with a white picket fence. He did NOT tell me that he fell
in love with me on our 3rd date
and knew that he wanted to spend his life with me. My sister witnessed the actual
lightning bolt moment but just thought he was being weird.
Because he knew telling me those things would have sent
me running for the hills. Have you met me? I am
allergic to commitment. Instead he
played me like a fiddle. Plucking here
and there to find the right combination of notes that would eventually resemble
a song.
In a last ditch attempt to win me back, he wrote me a short story. About a haggard heart who prevailed over the dismissive chorus of thoughts in his mind that had counseled him to cut off contact. A SHORT STORY, PEOPLE. A short story in which the thoughts wisely said, 'let us ask the heart.'
And in
the end, it worked. We were engaged
shortly after. And married, seven years
ago today. Never could I have imagined a
more worthy adversary (which is what I considered suitors
back in my singleton days), a better best friend, a more steadfast and level
headed partner, or a more incredible father.
Thank
you mr. V. For asking your heart.
Wedding photos by 808 Studios
kisses, mrs. V
5 comments:
awww, tears! Great story. So happy you found your happily ever after! Congratulations and Happy Anniversary!
So glad you did too. Miss you both terribly!
Beautiful story. Beautiful couple.
beautiful.
your freckles are awesome.
that's what years of diligent slathering of Baby Oil and Crisco while sunning with tin foil will get you. no shortage of freckles and moles over here or a big greek snoz for that matter...
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